tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post3814247495226550663..comments2023-10-05T07:42:27.904-04:00Comments on I can't whistle: better late than neverKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12533501052787233233noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-83017042439309164742009-07-20T12:10:44.214-04:002009-07-20T12:10:44.214-04:00I'm on the "better late than never" ...I'm on the "better late than never" train too. We are the same age, though I am a few months older than you. I turn 43 in less than a month, but in my mind, I'm already 43! That is because I'll be doing IVF again when I'm 43. Keep following your dreams. Good luck with this IUI. I hope you'll follow me on my blog too!Phoebehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07668069274859889749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-70841269438047484922009-07-18T17:03:27.672-04:002009-07-18T17:03:27.672-04:00Hey -- thinking of you today and hoping the IUI we...Hey -- thinking of you today and hoping the IUI went well and that, you know, it works. With love,<br />ElizabethElizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13523429512301405181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-72166636135409366972009-07-18T12:24:59.412-04:002009-07-18T12:24:59.412-04:00You and your path in life is unique and thank good...You and your path in life is unique and thank goodness for that. Many women never come to the certainty that they want a child in their lives, yet they go forth and procreate anyway. Your choices are much more thoughtful and your child will know that he/she is wanted in every way.<br /><br />My dh is in his 50s, and we're certainly not creating our family at the same time as everyone else nor in a conventional way, but who cares. It feels right to us.What IF?https://www.blogger.com/profile/17296831848220411473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-60201226791721073872009-07-18T10:20:17.187-04:002009-07-18T10:20:17.187-04:00Sweet Kate,
You managed to put into words so eloq...Sweet Kate,<br /><br />You managed to put into words so eloquently the exact thoughts I have had so many times. <br /><br />It is so very hard to look at people your age and not play the "comparison game". Especially in terms of the family building dept.<br /><br />I know that when your child comes along Kate, no matter how old you are or where you are on your life journey, you will have SO much love to offer. That is the important thing! <br /><br />HUGSJB - A.K.A. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06552394214853924040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-86803537638519496032009-07-18T09:30:39.552-04:002009-07-18T09:30:39.552-04:00I dont think you are crazy. Everyone's life p...I dont think you are crazy. Everyone's life path is different. I have always been very focused, very driven, known what I want and when I want it, I went to vet school at 18, became a vet at 23! I am driven! Problem is, life does not always work like that. I have always wanted children, that doesnt mean that I will definetly have them.<br />I have to say, your man sounds amazing. How many men would have ran for the hills if you dumped all bagage on the first date! He sounds great. I am really hoping and wishing that this works for you Kate. Hang in there.<br />Nic xNichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16275332224849930573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-13140667887378704232009-07-17T21:04:36.421-04:002009-07-17T21:04:36.421-04:00My husband is 51 and his friends' kids are gra...My husband is 51 and his friends' kids are graduating from college. I think that he is going to make an amazing father - scratch that - he is an amazing father to his son, my stepson. I think that age makes me better - and I think we will be better parents due to our age. Go for it girl and don't look back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-41749351648927774882009-07-17T20:39:22.449-04:002009-07-17T20:39:22.449-04:00I'm not sure I would 'hope for' a chil...I'm not sure I would 'hope for' a child at age 42 let alone 38 for that matter. I would just feel like I was setting the child up for uncertainty, not knowing how long I'd live for and so forth, but I guess Our Creator knows what each of us can handle and so by design we 'could' produce an offspring THAT late in life. I just hope it's not me :) but you! Because heck you want it.<br /><br />I'll be 30 next year and I hope to have our first before then. Ha!! ya right. So far its proving to be an uncontrollable task.<br /><br />My husband will be 32 next year and well we ain't gettin any younger so you know how it goes. The clock ticks time flies, friends make it easy to pop those suckers out, and we walk on by holding hands, looking young-er-than-ever because it's just the two of us. No children have reshaped us, our bodies or our nerves, we are just the same as when we met. Plus or minus a few pounds, but regardless it is just the two of us. Laughing having sex where ever we want, when ever pretty much. Ha! Can't do that with kids, well not with kids staying sane I gather. lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-38910449035993893032009-07-17T15:52:56.786-04:002009-07-17T15:52:56.786-04:00my life isnt what i thought either. but everythin...my life isnt what i thought either. but everything for a reason... our lives make us who we are... and these things will influence your motherhood and serve you well... i know it.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-58118033831860274282009-07-17T12:38:21.572-04:002009-07-17T12:38:21.572-04:00Not crazy and not impossible. And I second the oth...Not crazy and not impossible. And I second the others' thoughts in what a remarkable parent your journey and wisdom will make you. Other kids should be so lucky. And other parents should be envious. As for FB...sigh. I have a love/hate relationship with it. It has offered me some secret social benefits as well as some work. But I get sad reading about all of my friends' kids, especially knowing that many of them were able to pop them out like farts and those same people probably scoff and my and Mr. W's DINKiness, because we must just be selfish. As if.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891984751397130045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-82050963439775347842009-07-17T12:25:37.337-04:002009-07-17T12:25:37.337-04:00My dearest friends mom had him when she was 50. He...My dearest friends mom had him when she was 50. He is now 50 and trying to have kids. That's his norm. In NYC there are tons and tons of new mothers over 40 and 50. <br /><br />As far as I am concerned, there is no 'norm' when it comes to making a family. I don't believe in statistical norms (which form the base of the assumptions we live by). They are misleading on so many levels. <br /><br />I admire that you have the internal fortitude to survive and demand life. You are an inspiration and I am honored to ' know ' you.Ebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674801997007886433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-27919747747611333182009-07-17T12:12:09.076-04:002009-07-17T12:12:09.076-04:00Like you, this wasn't always what I knew I nee...Like you, this wasn't always what I knew I needed. It came to me gradually, as my brother married and had children, and I started to realize that this was something I needed in my own life. And my husband wanted nothing to do with the notion. <br /><br />The Boy is older than me. His oldest daughter is 26. His youngest leaves for college in August. I know I would not have been a stellar parent at age 20, and I know that my sprog is going to have two parents who adore him and are ready for him and who will be older than many of his friends' parents. <br /><br />I'm ok with all that. I figure I'm luckier than many people in that I've been able to live so many lives. I don't regret any (well, <i>many</i>) of them. <br /><br />I'm thinking your child is going to be blessed with parents who love her and know their own hearts and strengths, and that is way more important than being "young" parents. <br /><br />And I totally agree with you about Facebook. Ugh, I hate that site!!!Sprogbloggerhttp://www.sprogblogger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-64594110985202356792009-07-17T11:45:10.259-04:002009-07-17T11:45:10.259-04:00My life wasn't like that either. I will admit ...My life wasn't like that either. I will admit to sometimes wishing now it was, but looking back, everything happened in due time. I'll spare you the details of my own path, but it's not a straight line for every woman. And that is okay.<br /><br />What is important is how much you want this now. You are ready now. And I fully believe that when you are 100% clear about what you want, it tends to happen for you.<br /><br />There are so many children born to mothers who are unsure, don't know what they are doing, are doing it for the wrong reasons... what a blessing to know that you are mother who is so ready for this, and for all the right reasons.<br /><br />You'll get there.onwardandsidewayshttp://onwardandsideways.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com