tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post5315013521361835594..comments2023-10-05T07:42:27.904-04:00Comments on I can't whistle: reality and dandelion seedsKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12533501052787233233noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-40098857953370525642009-04-16T23:33:00.000-04:002009-04-16T23:33:00.000-04:00no pinching, you bruise as easily as i do.
hones...no pinching, you bruise as easily as i do. <br /><br />honestly, sweetkate, you know how i suffer with thoughts cycling (hah) in my head, good and bad, and there are times when i just want to get REALLY! EXCITED! but i try to keep the ones i allow myself to process to the ones that wouldn't break my heart if they didn't. <br /><br />i think you need to give yourself some time to think about it every xx hours, then totally focus elsewhere. there will be plenty of time for excitement laterAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05631590561921030359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-79854341832082159082009-04-16T13:15:00.000-04:002009-04-16T13:15:00.000-04:00It's ok to pinch yourself, (not too hard!). Go ahe...It's ok to pinch yourself, (not too hard!). Go ahead...pinch..it's real. Your real. :)Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891984751397130045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-73905266166915155022009-04-15T21:51:00.000-04:002009-04-15T21:51:00.000-04:00Well -- you've heard it already but I can pile on ...Well -- you've heard it already but I can pile on and say: I felt very similarly. My biggest connection to the whole process for a while (besides the daily shots and vitamins) was being just totally terrified that something would go wrong. Plus, I was working all the time, and traveling for work, and like everyone else, I have sort of a stressful job. . .and DH was really sick. . .blah, blah. I didn't allow myslef to get excited or really do anything until after the 16 week or so scans came back saying: creature looks healthy. Shortly after that I could feel him move (felt the baby move for the first time in the elevator at the cancer center accompanying DH to chemo), and that helped too. But, really, I had a hard time connecting to the reality of it all and I don't know if that was the IVF or just me. But, it ended well, and I think it will for you too. You way to come to grips with this now doesn't predict your feelings once you meet your small one in person, that was my story anyway. (I also got some books about the "science" of pregnancy and tried to think every day about how the creature was growing, and that was helpful too.)Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13523429512301405181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-24845823684118152612009-04-15T20:52:00.000-04:002009-04-15T20:52:00.000-04:00Take advantage of the relative quiet. You can draw...Take advantage of the relative quiet. You can draw on this later. Just being with what is is enough. There is no right or wrong way to feel. This can be such a <br />crazy dance between expectations and the reality of the present moment. Just for the record at no point in my almost twelve years of parenthood have I felt just what I expected to feel.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16198111122495893339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-39249500755026398572009-04-15T18:32:00.000-04:002009-04-15T18:32:00.000-04:00I hate what the struggle does to us sometimes - st...I hate what the struggle does to us sometimes - strips that giddy joy from us. <br /><br />Feel what you need to feel - it is all okay. ((HUGS))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-81625550950359112312009-04-15T15:44:00.000-04:002009-04-15T15:44:00.000-04:00I am sure this is normal. As time goes on you wil...I am sure this is normal. As time goes on you will begin to show and then as your pregnancy progresses you will feel kicks and movements! It will sink in eventually, dont worry. You have had such a long journey to get here and I think your mind and body is trying to protect you from potential hurt and worry. It wont allow you to believe at the moment but this will come with time. Keep looking at your scan and telling yourself you have a baby in your belly!!!Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16275332224849930573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-53121120896223494612009-04-15T14:53:00.000-04:002009-04-15T14:53:00.000-04:00i have written this kind of post myself. i don't f...i have written this kind of post myself. i don't feel pregnant either, especially when the symptoms go on break, as they are right now. i'm waiting anxiously for the point where my body will start changing and i *will* feel pregnant. i told a friend today that i want the morning sickness and the cramps and the sore boobs to stay because at least i know something's going on in there!cadyhttp://journey1000words.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-76879914002198665442009-04-15T14:41:00.000-04:002009-04-15T14:41:00.000-04:00Thanks for your post. Just had a good cry while I ...Thanks for your post. Just had a good cry while I penned my own feelings about this very same topic. I bet if you had a special mirror, you would see the gold dust.Grade Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14829925143186766680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-41189491727597045262009-04-15T14:17:00.000-04:002009-04-15T14:17:00.000-04:00your thoughtfulness is so inspiring. You are an aw...your thoughtfulness is so inspiring. You are an awesome mum. <br />EBEbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674801997007886433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-21177875142227884012009-04-15T12:20:00.000-04:002009-04-15T12:20:00.000-04:00Well, I'd say not only are you pregnant, but you a...Well, I'd say not only are you pregnant, but you are also very normal. I could have written this post. Every time I remember that I'm not 'feeling' pregnant, I freak out. Sometimes I forget it. The mild m/s I get is always a joy. As in, right now I have it, and I'm not eating because feeling it makes me feel pregnant. Only an IFer could understand that, lol.<br /><br />You will get there. Try to trust and follow that tried and true 'PUPO' school of thought. You are pregnant. Right now. Nothing as matters and you will deal with anything that comes your way. Which in my opinion, is going to be a beautiful baby sometime in November/December.<br /><br />Have you tried drinking lots (and I mean LOTS) of water for the crampiness? It has worked wonders for me, and I hear us preggos are supposed to really up the H20 intake.onwardandsidewayshttp://onwardandsideways.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-22399574204012706062009-04-15T12:15:00.000-04:002009-04-15T12:15:00.000-04:00Your feelings and thoughts are all so very normal ...Your feelings and thoughts are all so very normal for and IFer. I've experienced and read about this over and over. I'm still waiting for my moment of gold dust and angels singing.<br /><br />One day at a time.Searching for Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17842793601509147918noreply@blogger.com