tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post7175455813803441532..comments2023-10-05T07:42:27.904-04:00Comments on I can't whistle: breathing in, breathing outKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12533501052787233233noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-45456854808035636372009-06-18T19:08:08.291-04:002009-06-18T19:08:08.291-04:00Kate, have you considered cycling with CNY in Syra...Kate, have you considered cycling with CNY in Syracuse, NY? Even if you haven't, using their fees to benchmark will hopefuly help your research on the financial front. <br /><br />They have a 6 cycle discount plan (not a refund plan, no age or other criteria to be met) for $13,500. I had my heart set on cycling at Cornell, but in the end we just couldn't afford it and went to CNY. So glad we did...<br /><br />CNY Fertility's per-cycle IVF plan is also one of the cheapest I've come across. (First cycle $5,500, second cycle $4,500, third and subsequent cycles, $3,500.) For each of these cycles, you can pay a large portion on a 12-month interest free basis, which is what we did.)<br /><br />http://cnyfertility.com/costs-financing/#ivfdiscount<br /><br />Dr. Kiltz is the owner, and does all the retrievals/transfers at the Syracuse office himself. He was willing to give us a free cycle if no sperm was found during Dh's aspiration. They also offer alternative therapies next door, at CNY Healing Arts, which he also owns. (I went for fertilty acupuncture treatments there - very convenient because they work around the patient's unpredictable retrieval/transfer schedules.)<br /><br />Since you're looking at IUI rather than IVF, I'm not sure how the cost would differ, but across the board, even with donor oocytes, their prices are very competitive. Email Tracey or Lori (their emails are on the link above.)<br /><br />Also, they handle tons of out-of-town patients, and I've met their out-of-town nurse coordinator, Linda. She's a sweetie.<br /><br />Good luck!What IF?https://www.blogger.com/profile/17296831848220411473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-31480435793729147182009-06-18T18:16:26.311-04:002009-06-18T18:16:26.311-04:00My Dh and I were together for many years before we...My Dh and I were together for many years before we married. I've always felt that whether we were married or not made no difference - it's the love and commitment that counts. As far as correcting people, or not, well, I always heard "partner/man in my life" while we were unmarried and rarely corrected people. Of course, how one reacts depends entirely on the context of what is said and who said it. Whatever you feel comfortable with, is what goes. :-)What IF?https://www.blogger.com/profile/17296831848220411473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-81868247638854138532009-06-18T13:02:06.730-04:002009-06-18T13:02:06.730-04:00I hope you find the best, affordable program you c...I hope you find the best, affordable program you can. It just stinks that money has to be a deciding factor in something that is so of the heart.<br /><br />While I am a big fan of marriage (I've never been happier - even with all our challenges), I don't judge you and your sweetie at all. My BFF is also in a committed relationship and TTC. I wish you and her all the luck in the world at what you're trying to do. We started TTC several months before our wedding. The biological clock was ticking. Even my mother told me it was okay to start trying. If you knew my mother, you'd be as amazed as I was to hear her say that. LOL!Joannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12268912691024764398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-15509090121838675992009-06-18T10:29:24.592-04:002009-06-18T10:29:24.592-04:00I have been following your blog and I so hope you ...I have been following your blog and I so hope you and your sweetie are able to have your dream come true.<br />I have had PGD testing and I feel the need to comment - I am 43 and have had 5 IVF's. One resulted in a healthy pregnancy and I gave birth to my son at age 42. <br />The IVF that I chose to do pgd testing ($4,300) resulted in 3 "normal" embryos. I was elated, all 3 were transfered, but that ended with a chemical pregnancy.<br />I know you have been doing the research, but PGD does not guarantee a pregnancy. <br />PGD is great for people who have a surplus of embryos (I had 17) and need to determine what to save/freeze or for more complicated genetic issues.<br />But, at the end of the day, when money competes with our hearts desire, it may not be worth the investment. <br />I had a wonderful and well know doctor at FCI (Fertility Centers of Illinois in Chicago) and if you only end up with a few embryos on day 3 or 5, you might be better off just putting them all back in. <br />There is much to be learned from each cycle as you are going through it, and, each cycle is different. <br />Don't feel like you need to make the PGD decision now. You can wait until your retrieval.<br />Your doctor will guide you as will the genetisists.<br />It can happen for you - hang in there. I know several other people who had healthy babies at our age w/o pgd testing through IVF.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-66709368544835241502009-06-17T21:37:44.397-04:002009-06-17T21:37:44.397-04:00so glad in my heart that you are feeling okay. ma...so glad in my heart that you are feeling okay. married/not married - i feel like it is just a label and some people probably give labels too much weight - whatever you are comfortable with! ((HUGS))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-79265902183636104932009-06-17T19:46:13.007-04:002009-06-17T19:46:13.007-04:00I'm so glad to read you are checking into the ...I'm so glad to read you are checking into the ARC options. As I understood things, the 3 cycle + option did not have age restrictions, but cost was adjusted due to risk. Again, if this can work out to be the cost of a car payment, then maybe it's something that is possible. Good luck. BTW-If I win the lottery, you're getting a freebie from me, we'll both go for an all expenses paid vacay to CCRM. (Now I have to just go out and buy one of those f-king tickets.)<br /><br />As for the married thang, it's no big deal. MrBeep and I were together for 12 years. Very happy, very much committed to each other. If people called him my husband, I went along with it. When necessary I called him my sweetie, "boyfriend" is just SO HIGH SCHOOL.<br /><br />When we were going to start GYN surgery and IVF route (TTC megaland) I said, "Well if we do have a family, do you want to be married? I am fine either way." He smiled and said, "Yeah, I want to be married to you first." So Yay! We had a ceremony in a nearby forest glen. We had men in skirts and spent all the budget on food and beer and wine and giving a big fat donation to our favorite local state park for hosting the event.IF Optimist, then...https://www.blogger.com/profile/11634482448223302535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-24196489730228383832009-06-17T13:47:52.186-04:002009-06-17T13:47:52.186-04:00Good for you for investigating. Very good work! ...Good for you for investigating. Very good work! It is always good to have as much info as you possibly can have. <br /><br />As to your husband/not husband relationship with your sweetie. Marriage takes place in your heart. The wedding, the paperwork, it's all extra. If you feel like he is your husband in life and practice, regardless of your legal status, he is. And if you dont, then I dont think anyone would be offended if you corrected them.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-22274751601189594812009-06-17T13:12:53.932-04:002009-06-17T13:12:53.932-04:00You are sounding a little happier today, am please...You are sounding a little happier today, am pleased. It makes no difference whether you are married or not. If you feel uncomfortable with people calling him your husband then correct them. If it makes no difference to you, then it is sometimes easier just leaving it as it is. The most important thing is how you feel about it.Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16275332224849930573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-19633355781134203452009-06-17T12:25:44.106-04:002009-06-17T12:25:44.106-04:00I'm glad you're feeling a bit more at-ease...I'm glad you're feeling a bit more at-ease with where things are. Not <i>good</i> about them, because, damn, some things aren't good, and IF is definitely Not Good. But glad you're wrapping your mind around where you are and what your options are, and VERY glad you're exploring all your options. <br /><br />As far as the married/not married thing goes, the Boy & I were in the same boat when we first started TTC. I had no real desire to get married again, and we ended up doing it last fall as a hedge against eventual adoption. (If we end up adopting, it's going to be easier if we've been officially married for a while.)<br /><br />As far as telling - or correcting - others? I think it's entirely up to you. If you're not opposed to the state of marriage per se, then perhaps you can just translate in your brain when someone asks where your husband is - assume they mean "man you spend your life with" instead of "man you said the words with". If you object - as others of my friends do - to marriage as a political/sexual insitution, then by all means correct people who make an unwarranted assumption. I think it's up to you, and no one else BUT you. Because in the end? 'Taint no one's business but your own.sprogbloggerhttp://www.sprogblogger.comnoreply@blogger.com