tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post7839765332397652143..comments2023-10-05T07:42:27.904-04:00Comments on I can't whistle: Tender realityKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12533501052787233233noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-17039432621461074152012-07-30T11:29:05.993-04:002012-07-30T11:29:05.993-04:00You are such an eloquent writer. I have my sweet ...You are such an eloquent writer. I have my sweet Adam and we are going to try one last IVF for number 2. I am half way to understanding every single word of this post. I hope our last chance IVF works but if it doesn't, I will face this same tender reality and, while its not the same grief that I would have felt had we not been able to have any children, it is still grief. I am thinking of you and Doug and sweet Della.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11463487922237508682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-2107558563467270802012-07-26T11:49:49.322-04:002012-07-26T11:49:49.322-04:00Oh, yes. I know the feeling well. If Michael were ...Oh, yes. I know the feeling well. If Michael were here, I'd do almost anything to have another.<br /><br />I get asked the same thing because I look young, and some people don't know that I'm a widow. "Is this your first?" "Wait until you have another!"<br /><br />Michael and I have a friend whose wife had their first (after much ART and failed adoptions) at 47. Don't know if it was a donor egg, or not. Not my business at all. But it makes me think/hope that if a good man shows up in our life in the not too distant future, that there's a possibility.<br /><br />But, probably not.<br /><br />I always thought I'd have three or four children, and a long marriage. Life just didn't turn out like I thought it would - at all. But that doesn't take away from the wonderfulness that is Michaela, and that she probably saved my (emotional) life.<br /><br />Some people just don't know how blessed they are. At least we do. Our girls are miracles.Joannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17152737939303560896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-81867326745261002942012-07-26T06:37:03.491-04:002012-07-26T06:37:03.491-04:00I know the grief you're talking about. It'...I know the grief you're talking about. It's there for me too. I'm happy with all we have, but there i also the pain of knowing that, save a miracle, this road is over. And you're right- it's something we just have to mourn and work through.<br /><br />Sending hugs...Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-28905162625767315152012-07-25T21:18:36.083-04:002012-07-25T21:18:36.083-04:00I can certainly understand your feelings. When we ...I can certainly understand your feelings. When we got married I got pregnant right away and sadly miscarried...3 times. Finally the fourth time I got pregnant, everything went fairly well and we have a wonderful 8 year old son. When he was 2 we decided to try for #2. I thought for sure it would be easy, because getting pregnant was easy for me, the hard part was staying pregnant. Well, here we are 6 years later and I have not been able to get pregnant. My husband is 43 and has some medical issues and I am almost 38. I have finally come to the realization that we are done and it is heartbreaking. On the other hand I know we are blessed to have our son and that there are so many others who are not as lucky as we are. I must admit too that it really bothers me to see women who are pregnant or with baby who truly do not need to have a child.<br />I really do understand your feelings. :(Carrie1074https://www.blogger.com/profile/09211829060766345472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-43888403366481697432012-07-25T15:17:30.072-04:002012-07-25T15:17:30.072-04:00Um...I can't tell if you're 100% sure on t...Um...I can't tell if you're 100% sure on this. But, you know, donor embryo (relatively little $$) is the way I would go if I were in your shoes. And I kind of was in your shoes.<br /><br />an anon (who had her DE daughter at the age of 46)<br /><br />Of course, ignore this if you're sure you're done. Only you (collective) know what's right for your family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com