tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post8507716465191699770..comments2023-10-05T07:42:27.904-04:00Comments on I can't whistle: back to natureKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12533501052787233233noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-5009316128403326042009-06-15T10:59:44.958-04:002009-06-15T10:59:44.958-04:00No need to explain the difficulties in accepting t...No need to explain the difficulties in accepting the idea of DE. After abysmal stimming for IVF#1, it looks likely I'll be heading to DE and I've been having a hard time wrapping my head about it. You have to go through a sort of mourning process, I think. But like you, I'm not quite giving up yet on a bio child. I'm gonna drain my insurance for all that they'll cover, hoping for a miracle. you never know when that one super egg will hit center stage.<br /><br />Oh, and btw, my clinic does DE until age 50 too. So like others posted, I think you have more time than you think if you're willing to move clinics.Finn's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981940225352570716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-7366589304815541752009-06-14T21:22:30.317-04:002009-06-14T21:22:30.317-04:00follow your instincts. it sounds like you've r...follow your instincts. it sounds like you've really thought a lot about your options but at the end of the day your reasons for pursuing your own eggs are just that, <i>your</i> reasons. all that matters is that the two of you are comfortable with how you move forward on this crazy journey. for me DE was simply my only option to carry a child myself. but does that mean it was an easy option to choose. absolutely not. and also as onwards and sideways mentioned if you find yourself looking more closely at DE next year or years from now, my clinic did the money-back cycle program. basically we got 6 fresh cycles (with unlimited FET cycles if we had any frozen embryos to work with) and if nothing resulted in a live birth or if we backed out at any time we got ALL our money back. so we could still know that other options, like adoption would still be possible. but for now... just go for it lady!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-37892207059910546732009-06-14T14:14:27.809-04:002009-06-14T14:14:27.809-04:00It is definitely process, going through all of thi...It is definitely process, going through all of this. And you are doing it the best way, being true to yourself. <br /><br />Coupla' things:<br /><br />- Generally, at most clinics, you can do DE up to the age of 50. Some even take up to 52. So you've actually got more time than you think, should you ever choose to go that route.<br /><br />- CCRM is just about THE most expensive place in the US to do DE. There are a number of other clinics that have similar stats to CCRM that are less expensive. Email me if you ever want some names.<br /><br />- Having been to CCRM, I would not go back there -- in spite of the fact that we had success. They are all business, and nothing but the business. <br /><br />- If you do ever move on to DE, you should DEFINITELY find a clinic that has a money-back guarantee program. With these, you can cycle several times and if there is no take-home baby at the end, you get money back. I would never do a DE cycle without this kind of program again. Knowing what I know now, we were very lucky to have success on our first try with DE. Advanced Fertility Center in Chicago has a 4 tries program that looks really good. If we go for a sibling, there's a good chance we'll go there. Stats are as good as CCRM's. Also, CCRM has a money-back program, but it's really bad. Even their financial person said 'we don't recommend it to most people.'<br /><br />Okay, that's enough DE talk for now. I won't say anything more about it unless I see something as I did today that isn't quite right in terms of info about DE.<br /><br />Fingers crossed, as always, for you!onwardandsidewayshttp://onwardandsideways.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-84558823568181853032009-06-14T10:53:54.795-04:002009-06-14T10:53:54.795-04:00K - well said and I feel that way about our situat...K - well said and I feel that way about our situation as well - even though we have moved on to donor sperm, I am not ready to give up on my eggs yet. I have no articulable reason myself. Hoping everyday for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-54567519774601337472009-06-14T09:51:21.776-04:002009-06-14T09:51:21.776-04:00follow your heart, Kate. IF takes so much out of ...follow your heart, Kate. IF takes so much out of us and the one thing that we can do is follow our hearts. you will make the decisions you need as each approaches.<br /><br />big hugs...Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-17624751488736477222009-06-14T08:29:56.433-04:002009-06-14T08:29:56.433-04:00Sweet Kate,
Just from the sounds of this post, I...Sweet Kate,<br /><br />Just from the sounds of this post, I know you must have wrestled heartily with finding the right path for you and DH.<br /><br />You are trusting your feelings and being true to your heart - no matter what, that is the most important thing on this journey.<br /><br />I am praying that even with all this cycle craziness you end up with a huge sticky BFP at the end!<br /><br />HUGSJB - A.K.A. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06552394214853924040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-76098426273024323182009-06-14T08:22:07.191-04:002009-06-14T08:22:07.191-04:00the best journey is the one chosen by you. lots of...the best journey is the one chosen by you. lots of people have opinions but you and DH are the ones in bed at night, you must know that you did the right thing for you. I applaud you and am praying for a great outcome!just me, dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03046206651954423260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-47274815045605551142009-06-14T03:52:24.668-04:002009-06-14T03:52:24.668-04:00Good for you and your hubby Kate. Everyone wants ...Good for you and your hubby Kate. Everyone wants to solve a problem and tell you want to do, but you should do what feels right. Sounds like you've got a good plan and I hope it works out this cycle. My best wishes. -TraciIF Optimist, then...https://www.blogger.com/profile/11634482448223302535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6136056672660705454.post-45795792728232748552009-06-13T22:35:16.170-04:002009-06-13T22:35:16.170-04:00Good for you! The only way to 'do' this jo...Good for you! The only way to 'do' this journey is to navigate with your instincts. I have a friend that got preggers at 42 after trying for ages and now she has a lovely little girl.Ebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674801997007886433noreply@blogger.com