I can't whistle: ISO

26 December 2017

ISO

Hello loves! Looking-- seriously-- for an only child IVF girl of color -- preferably smart and spirited, to become a penpal with Della. Della is now 7, and would love to find someone to talk with who is like her in ways that her class mates are not.

Her class mates all are white.
They all have siblings or have siblings about to appear (literally, any moment).
And none that she knows of are IVF babies.

So-- anyone know anyone? Let me know! An older girl is fine too. And "girl" does not need to mean girl parts.

THANK YOU!!!!

2 comments:

Helene said...: Hi!

I'm a near-complete stranger, used to lurk on your blog sometimes.

I can't exactly fill in all your requirements, but since you got no answer yet:
I could ask my own daughter, who is an IVF child and is 8 as of January but is the oldest of two (little brother is an IVF baby as well) and as white as can get. We're French, live in France, daughter is just beginning to learn English in school so I'd need to translate.
Or I could ask my daughter's best friend who's 9, mixed-race (half French, half Malian), an only child, but not an IVF child. Same thing, she barely speaks English so someone would need to translate, either her mother or myself.
Or it could be both! They're both great kids - they've been nicknamed "the intellectuals" by a neighbour, recently... Daughter is very into arts and very imaginative, best friend is majorly into books.

If your daughter would like to try, la.tarask at free dot fr; February 9, 2018 at 10:36 AM
Kate said...: Helene! You sweet person! Thank you!! Della has found a nearby girl, about her age, to exchange letters with-- and she has not quite found her rhythm yet. I am so humbled by your offer, and as Della grows a bit, I will certainly ask her! Thank you thank you thank you for reaching out. You warmed my heart on this very chilly day.; February 9, 2018 at 11:20 AM

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I started this blog during struggles with infertility--struggles that resulted in countless IUIs, medications, procedures, 5 attempted IVF cycles, 2 pregnancies, one heartbreaking loss, and one miracle baby.

Parenthood left me feeling like I was not sure what to do here, with this amazing community. To talk about parenting felt boastful for those still and forever struggling. To not talk about it felt disingenuous. So here I am. I want to talk about my real life. Parenting. Midlife reassessment. Flailing. Finding myself. Mucking about.

So yes, I am a midlife parent of an amazing child.
Yes, I battled infertility and will be forever changed by every single moment of that journey.
I am imperfect and life is messy, but it is also so beautiful.

Among many other things, I hope to reconnect to myself through writing here. And I hope to connect with you too. Others out there, parenting maybe later in life. Maybe after struggling. Maybe struggling still. We can all use a safe place and a lot of compassion. That's what I am offering to you. I hope you'll stick around.

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"The key is, starting from the inside out. Often you say, “I don’t know what to do.” True, you don’t know what to do. There are infinite possibilities. And a bunch of them haven’t worked for you. A lot of them have been tried, and they haven’t worked under what you think are the same conditions. And so, you sort of pace around, you don’t know what to do. Sometimes you don’t even know what you want to have. But you always, you always, if you will stop and think about it, you ALWAYS know how you want to feel."

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