Della has never again pooped on the potty. But that is not an issue for me or us right now.
she is pooping.
every day sometimes, every other day.
some very tiny bit of anticipatory crying sometimes, more in fear of what was rather than in response to what is (OH just like her momma)
sometimes, she just asks for a pull up and poops.
We have overcome this horrible terrible bad bad thing with LUCK, fear (of the butt medicine) and MagO7.
Do not do any of this without medical advice. This is serious. Poop withholding can really cause damage, so make sure you talk with someone who knows about this for real, and can help.
I am not a doctor.
We tried all of the miralax, chewies, etc, that were not stimulant laxitives. we did stimulant laxatives exactly once. We also did the butt medicine (liquid glycerine suppositories) a few times out of pure desperation and need for her to poop.. but nothing was actually working, not breaking the cycle, calming the freaked out kiddo, or the parents.
I did more and more reading on the internet and found MagO7 which is used for colon cleansing on crazy adults. Big magnesium molecules that draw fluid into the colon, keeping things soft. So they say.
We started giving her about a half capsule every night for a week then increased to one...but have found one capsule of MagO7 at night mixed in with something yummy (say, one spoonful of ice cream), and a little fiber (Heather's Tummy fiber, acacia? 1/4 tsp 2x/day)-- to be our magical combination that keeps the poop soft, keeps signals clear for her (no cramping), and appears to be allowing our little one's immense colon to return to something like a normal one, not that I would know what that is.
I just wanted to share that this nightmare appears to be over.
we put the butt medicine away in happy ceremony.
now if we can have the same success with my anxiety, we'll be golden. but that is a post for another day.
For folks to find this: stool withholding, poop withholding, Mag07 MagO7