This came up this weekend for me over at the campfire, and it is worth sharing since I am absolutely sure I am not alone:
As long as I am working from the premise that I must meet someone else's expectations or hopes for me, I have less energy to invest in developing, acknowledging, and achieving my own.
As long as I am afraid that whatever I create or envision will never be good enough, I will never do it (why bother?), or do it within a sub-context of fear and the presumption of insufficiency.
I have always been acutely aware of the cost (to me) of disappointing other people and never, until this very moment, spent a conscious minute being aware that there may be a cost to disappointing myself.